Grab the "Who can contact me? Only people on my buddy list?" and the "Who can see when I'm online? Only people on my buddy list?" settings from the server and activate your privacy setting so that the values that you've set using the official myspace IM client will also apply when you're logged in with Pidgin. I really don't think this should be necessary at a protocol level. It's just stupid. Why wouldn't the server do this for us?