jabber: Re-arrange the code that detects legacy servers so that we don't stomp over "Host Unknown" errors. Legacy servers don't send <stream:features>, so we need to notice when we've finished the opening <stream:stream> tag and, if there was no version, start authentication right then. This was causingon other valid errors (like the server complaining it's not who we think it is) to be replaced by a complaint "You require encryption...". Closes #10450. This seems to work in all the cases I've tested (including with jabberd14).