This is the second part of the fix to support having multiple presence records in Bonjour (and also supporting multiple presences using the same IP). Incoming conversations are no longer immediately attached to a buddy - we use an algorithm to match a conversation to a buddy based on the IP and, if possible the "from" attribute of the stream or the first tag in the stream. Thanks to Sjoerd Simons from Telepahy Salut for noticing and suggesting the algorithm. Fixes #4187. It'd be good if a few people test this.