Add an assertion in purple_blist_add_{chat,buddy} to return if a buddy was added to the buddy list in a group that is not in the buddy list. This improper usage previously caused duplicate groups to be shown in the buddy list, which are then dropped after restarting Pidgin. This change may incur a performance hit on every buddy added to the buddy list with a non-null group. If this performance is noticeably worse, an alternate assertion (which is less readable) can be used as #2752. Closes #2752.